07-19-2007
Will We Make Up in This Life Time
Loving Annie Asks:
Good Wednesday morning Lucid ! How are you doing ? (Lucid) – I am doing fine, thank you for asking!
I saw that you came by my blog and left a nice comment on my erotica post. Thank you. (Lucid) – Your welcome, we are all adults here
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I wanted to come by here and read, but when I tried to see the rest of your recent post, the screen was a very dark blue and I couldn’t see any writing. The same thing happened when I tried to comment.
I don’t know if this is just happening to me, or… ? (Lucid) – I had noticed that issue only one other time. I haven’t experienced it in a long time.
Will M.L.Ws sexual attraction to me overcome his anger/hurt and resentment enough to make him come back to me in person so we can kiss and make up in this lifetime?
Lucid’s Thoughts:
(I have replaced your friends name with initials. I do not post full names.)
Let me start by saying I am feeling a big shift in your life, and the way you are viewing all aspects. This is not just about your sexual life. You are coming out of a dormant/stagnant stage in your life. Your feelings of having a lost purpose is dissolving. It seems you are almost demanding equality in all your relationships in your life. This is a wonderful move for you because living by someone elses idea of what your life should be like is a big hindrance for your growth.
This is good because it will give you the room to ease up on yourself. I don’t know whom M.L.W is, but the question here is do you want him to be so sexually attracted to you, that all original feelings of anger/hurt/resentment are masked behind his hormonal drive?
My feelings are that It would hurt you more then if he never saw or talked to you again. You know it is absolutely delightful to feel like a women emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. I think if you allow a physical attraction to override the others, you will be setting yourself up to be burnt.
I think this new shift in your life is going to give you the opportunity to express yourself without manipulation. You will experience a new sense of freedom. Kindness and giving are good acts for your karma.
Again, I do not know who this male is that you speak of, but I think your thoughts and expectations need to evaluated carefully.
Good luck no matter which way you go! Be well and thank you for writing in!


July 19th, 2007 at 9:39 pm
I think a healthy sex drive is awsome, but as much as I like to make love, I would never want someone to just want me sexually. I believe I have so much more to offer then my physical body. I have the feeling that you do to Loving Annie! This is my opinion…. no offense meant
What is your blog’s url? I think you said you wrote something on Erotica?
July 20th, 2007 at 12:11 pm
Being that I am a male, I can tell you most of our relationships begin with a physical attraction of some kind. I am sure it is proably the same for you girls. If there was no sexual attraction where would the relationship go. For me that would be to to to much work from the beginning. I am not saying I am all about the sex because in this day and age you have to be careful but…..
July 20th, 2007 at 6:40 pm
Lucid,
I couldn’t agree more! You have said this so very well. Physical attraction will never in itself take the place of all of the other elements needed to sustain a loving relationship.
You are so wise!
July 21st, 2007 at 1:52 am
Relationships are like the elusive butterfly, if you chase it, it will fly away, if you let it come to you naturally you will enjoy it’s majesty — and it will envelope your Soul.
July 21st, 2007 at 12:03 pm
Yes Cheri…. A healthy sex life is one of the most wonderful things we can experience as humans, however we do have to be careful.
Because we are sexual beings, and sex has many different meanings & levels, we must be responsible.
It is a beautiful gift of expression and love, but it can also be used to hurt, or be hurt by it….
Thank you for your thoughts!
July 21st, 2007 at 12:07 pm
Hi Eric,
You do have a point. Physical attraction is a natural part of the relationship process. We are all attracted to things we like… that goes for ice cream as well
Did you know that the male reproductive organs are located in the First Chakra, which is the root. It is the area for grounding and the physical body.
Women’s reporductive system are located in the Second Chakra, which is the sexual and emotional area…..
Hmmmm, do we see where I am going with this
Thank you for sharing!
July 21st, 2007 at 12:14 pm
Hi there Mark!
Thank you for your compliment! You speak words of wisdom yourself
Gosh, relationships are so deep and complex. Because we are multi-dimensional beings, so are our relaitonships, and everything else that we get involved with.
If I close my eyes and see our patterns, I see a beautiful spider web.
Thank you for your thoughts always!
July 21st, 2007 at 12:21 pm
Beautifully put Alexys!!!!
This brings us back to the thought that we can not force someone to do something they are not willing or ready to do, so the best bet here is to let things flow naturally. I think nature has its time and place and sometimes we are not “willing” to be patient. We want the results like yesterday therefore we go to all lengths to get there, but in the end we end up hurt.
Hmmm…. All natural even our relationships…..
Thanks for your addition!
July 22nd, 2007 at 2:26 am
Not to be an a–hole, but I know girls like to use sex as a power tool and it isnt right. Not that I am saying that is what your doing. I know alot of girls that my friends date that end up using it as a leverage.
Hopefully if you guys make it, it will be for more then a sexual attraction. That is if you guys really mean something to each other.
July 22nd, 2007 at 5:10 pm
Hi Randy,
Yes sex can be misused by male or female and this is why we as individuals need to take responsiblities for our actions. If your friends are in this kind of situation, it is up to them to put an end to it. We can only be controlled if we allow it.
Thank you for your thoughts!