Bihjat Asks:
How does one let go of the hurt caused by someone due to a misunderstanding? How can you go over that hump to make peace with that person and look at the person in the same way without being conscious of the past?

Lucid’s Thoughts:
It is hard to let go of the “hurt” once we have been burned no matter what or who caused it. To feel relief from the pain, an understanding of the reason behind it is a must.

Misunderstandings are just that, and once a situation has arisen from it, it can be quite difficult to reverse the outcome.

It takes both parties to resolve a situation that was misunderstood. And, both parties must be willing to be neutral for a moment in time, so that each person can have the opportunity to voice their explanations. If this is not possible then acceptance of the situation should be your next move. Forgiveness is also key when trying to let go of the pain and getting over the “hump”.

You can not make peace with the other party until you have a grip on your own feelings.

To be able to look this person in the eyes and not see the past is almost impossible. Unless you suddenly have amnesia, you will be reminded from time to time about the fall out. The difference will be, once you have resolved the situation, whether it be with that person, or making mends within yourself, you will be able to stand strong with a forgiving heart and move forward.