07-28-2007
A Little Give and Take
You have to give a little. Flexibility is a must when working with other people, and family is no different.
Example of my personal experience with this blog:
I have a cousin who has helped me with the technical aspects of this project. We are two very different type personalities, yet we get along good. Why? Because we can be honest with each other, and even though we do not operate the same, we are flexible. We do not live close to each other and our work relationship consists of emails and phone calls, but that is ok.
We have both agreed that if we were sitting at a desk across from each other, we would end up with our hands around one anothers throats.
I work in a place where I need to be punctual, organized, and detail oriented. I am head of operations, I do research, customer service, and have daily and monthly reports to hand in. My cousin has a full time job/business that she does from her home, has her own schedule, is a bit more relaxed then me.
That being said, she calls me bossy. I just say I am strongly suggestive. She tells me she is a procrastinator, I say she wants to drive me nuts lololol…
The most important thing here is that we laugh. We laugh hard at the differences between us and call it a day.
Sooo, I will say, this whole project is an on going Self Developmental course. I have for years, wanted to express my thoughts and feelings. I have wanted to share my experiences, and now here I am.
The Cousin Replies:
Without brutal honesty and respect for one another, this very detailed, very important project would never have landed… That being said we do get along and we have learned a lot from one another. Has it always been easy? NO! Have we wanted to kill each other at times? YES! I must also admit, I *don’t* miss the corporate world, not at all!
I believe we have something to learn from one another if we pay attention. For instance, my strongly suggestive cousin is learning to be a tad more patient. While my lesson has been that being more organized IS necessary.
Would I have it any other way? That would be a BIG FAT NO!
Signed with Love,
The Procrastinating Cousin
July 29th, 2007 at 2:34 pm
This is very true. I work in an office with many women, of which most have their own idea of how things should get done. I am considered a Senior Supervisor, so this means I have to hold my cool, even if things are not getting done the way I want them to.
There has to be some degree of flexibility if things are going to run smoothly.
It sounds like you and your cousin have a solid relationship, a fun relationship. It is so valuable to be able to honest. It is not always the easiest thing to do, especailly with family, and where feelings are concerned.
August 2nd, 2007 at 1:22 am
Hello Kate!
Yes, my cousin and I do have a good relationship. We have learned many lessons during this venture. I feel that it is very important to treat people the way you would want to be treated, that goes for family, work, community, etc!
I have posted on the subject of dealing with the harmony in the work place. Your right it is not easy, but it must be done.
Thank you for your thoughts!
August 2nd, 2007 at 11:15 am
Good Thursday morning Lucid !
An organized person and a procrastinator get along ! This could be the stuff of a new Arnold Schwatrzenagger movie ! (LOL) Glad it all worked out, you have a lovely new look here !
August 2nd, 2007 at 12:18 pm
Good morning to you Annie!
(giggles) Arnold the Terminater III or Arnold in Kinder Cop 2 …. Depending on the day. It is so good to be able to laugh at eachother’s differences. Sometimes we get so stressed we end up laughing our way right through it.
Have a great day!
August 10th, 2007 at 5:47 am
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