Kari S Wrote:
I keep having this dream that my mother is still alive. She apparently “faked” her death b/c she hooked up with a man that didn’t want her to have anything to do with her children. Finally, after his abuse she returns to me and my 2 brothers and tells us what has really happened. All too soon she and her “man” make up and she leaves again, only to return again when they have another fight. This continually goes on and we finally tell her that if she chooses to stay with this man that it is her decision, but to please not cut us out of her life. She refuses and keeps leaving and coming back.

She died instantly in a car accident 10 1/2 years ago. My brothers and I felt so abandoned, b/c she was the epitome of the perfect mother. She was sooo wonderful and we miss her dearly. Any suggestions of what my dreams might mean? Thanks, Kari

Lucid’s Thoughts:
Hello Kari thank you for writing in!
10 & ½ years can feel like an eternity when you miss someone who was dear to you. The mind has many ways of trying to cope with the loss and confusion. It will sometimes do strange things, and dreaming of scenarios are just one of the ways it tries to deal.

Seeing your mother alive, and having her come and go out of your life could be your wishful thinking. Our mind, no matter how long, tends to stay in a slight state of denial, therefore it comes up with ways of possibilities. Faking her death would mean there is hope that she really is still alive, and that she may even come back. The boyfriend’s role is the optical that is keeping her from you. His role is to assure she does not “stay ” which is the minds way of saying, she most likely won’t be back…., not the way you would like her; full time! He gives reasons and excuses as to why she is not staying.

Try to control your dreams. Plan to have a straight forward visit with mom. Before going to sleep at night, try telling her you would like a peaceful visit with her. She may have already tried to visit you, but your mind & spirit want her to stay so bad, the environment becomes chaotic and confused.

Give it a few tries… I do this with my dad when I get to missing him. Sometimes I have to put in more then one request and I have been doing it for years!

God luck and have a wonderful day!

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