09-25-2007
Safe Place
Have you ever put yourself in a safe place? You know, the corner of your mind where you are shielded by the outside world; the place where you are untouchable. I guess you can say it is a form of mediation.
I frequent that place periodically. I do it when I am in a lot of pain, or when there is a lot of chaos going on around me. But, the most popular one would be when I go to the dentist. I get so anxious just knowing I have an appointment, and when the day comes, I experience high anxiety.
Once in the chair, I tightly inter lace my fingers, and off I go. I set sail to find that comfy corner in my mind. There I sit patiently for my guides to come take me to a place that is more appealing.
Yesterday I was in the dentist chair getting the second half of my root canal done. I quickly left to go to my safe place. While I was there, I saw a beautiful river gently passing over large boulders; the kind where only the tops were exposed. I could hear the soft sounds of the water flowing in a peaceful rhythm.
I saw that I was wearing a long white-sheer dress. My hair was long and healthy. I was walking bare foot along the bank. The water was very clear. It sparkled as the sunlight bounced and reflected off it. It looked so enticing, I just had to put my hand in it. The temperature was so perfect, I could hardly tell my hand was submerged.
I cupped some water into my hand and splashed its’ healing beauty all over my face; ahhh it felt so refreshing. I could have stayed there all day!
Unfortunately I was not able to be there long. I was constantly distracted. The dentist kept asking me questions like, “Are you ok?” It also made it hard to stay when it felt like they were playing tug of war with my lower jaw. (I have TMJ and if anyone who reads this has it, you know what I mean by discomfort)
I am thankful for the ability to be able to escape, even if it is only momentary. The mind is so amazing. It is capable of so many things we have yet to discover.
Do you have a safe place that you go to?
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September 25th, 2007 at 4:25 pm
Hello Lucid! It is funny you should write about this. As you know I have sadly had a miscarriage. I found myslef in that safe place while I was at the doctor’s office feeling a ton of anxiety not knowing what he was going to tell me. I felt very distant yet safe.
The dentist is a scary place. I don’t think I know anyone who loves to go lol
certainly not me! The smell alone is a turn off.
Talk with you soon!
September 25th, 2007 at 8:48 pm
Lucid,
This is a great topic. Many people would do so much better if they learned how to go to their safe place. Your safe place sounds and looks wonderful.
September 26th, 2007 at 1:19 am
For me, safety isn’t associated with a place. Safety begins and ends as a state of mind. You might also reflect on games like “trust me” where partners in this experience take turns blind-folding each other and leading them through the forest or down roads of uncertainty. Ultimately, you need to learn what it means to feel safe and secure inside yourself before you may feel ready to explore what this means through external perception in your sense of reality.
September 26th, 2007 at 3:44 am
Hi Lucid,
Dealing with just going to see a regular doctor bugs me out, I can’t tell you the anxiety I feel for days before I go. I can’t sleep and my heart races as the day comes near. The only thing that helps me is praying and asking for comfort to my un-nerved soul. Yes I could take Xanax but I hate to always use them. I only use it if I am completely out of control. But I’d say 95% of the time I don’t need them.
I’ll tell you, my dentist is a terrific man and I actually enjoy seeing him once a year. When I first started going to him 10 years ago I told him how I was about dotors and he just smiled. He is a very gentle man, and his staff is terrific! You would think you were at a comedy show times because you are laughing in between the drilling. What I am trying to communicate here is that he puts me in a different place in my mind so I can feel more at ease. I only wish more doctors were like him.
Angie, I am so sorry to read about your baby. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
I hope everyone has a great week!
September 26th, 2007 at 2:20 pm
Hey Lucid,
I think its great to have that space of your very own. There is more then one situtaion I can think of…. I often day dream and for me, that is my safe place. I find that I do this when I am bored or have alot on my mind.
September 26th, 2007 at 4:59 pm
Good Wednesday morning Lucid,
I take a 10 mg. valium, and it totally relaxes me.
Normally during the year I never take any kind of drugs. I don’t believe in it.
But in a case like that, I’d rather sleep than be stressed out, so I make an exception and don’t worry about it.
Loving Annie
September 26th, 2007 at 6:23 pm
September 26th, 2007 at 7:37 pm
Usually, the times that I should go to my safe place, I’m too anxious to even remember to go. But, when I do remember, I am on a beach, with blue waters rushing up to shore, and two palm trees, one on the left side of my image and one on the right side. The sand is reflecting the sun, and it is warm. I try to imagine the sounds.
If only I could remember to go here more often.
September 27th, 2007 at 11:36 am
Good morning Angie!
I am sorry to hear of your loss, how are you feeling? It is never easy when we experience a loss of any kind. My thoughts and prayers are with you, and my hope for a health pregnancy to come will continue!
If you want to talk you can email me.
Best wishes! Lucid
September 27th, 2007 at 11:38 am
Hi Mark, how are you?
I believe people would benefit from a safe place as long as they don’t stay there too long lol. There are times when I want to stay longer but can’t!
Hope you have a nice day!!!
September 27th, 2007 at 11:41 am
Morning Liara!
Safety or the sense of safety is part state of mind, there are other factors to consider, that is why I search for the safe place in my “head/mind” …. It is a zone of nuetral energy, welcoming, and warmth. It is a temp escape
Thanks for your addition and have a wonderful day!
September 27th, 2007 at 11:46 am
Hi Phyl!
I know how you are with doctors, I think your worse then me
lol… And yes, your dentist is a very funny guy. It helps keep the environment friendly and not so scary! (Your Lucky) Though my dentist seems to be a nice guy, I don’t think he is very funny, he seems to be a lil dry actually…..
Have a great week!
September 27th, 2007 at 11:48 am
Hey Cheri, how are ya?
I love to day dream…… For me it is like meditating with my eyes open
weird right! I can’t do it for too long because I am at work most of the day, and if I stayed like that, I doubt I’d get any work done. My boss may wonder why my body is in my chair, but my mind is 1000 miles away!
Be well!
September 27th, 2007 at 11:52 am
Good Thursday Morning to you Loving Annie!
Ahhhhh…. I never really thought to ask for an RX. Valium is a good one lol. Maybe if I get some, I wouldn’t have to rip the material off of the arm rest in the dentist chair lmao
……. I will consider that next time I go, which I hope is not too soon!
BTW- how are things going with Mark? I need to stop by your site. I have been working soooo much lately.
Have a sweet day my dear!
September 27th, 2007 at 11:56 am
Hello Grace!
Prayer is always safe for me, there is just something about the feeling of being connected to a higher power that also makes me feel safe. It reminds me of how I would walk with my dad as a little girl in a crowded place, as long as I was near him, I feared nothing. I tend to feel secure when I am connected with God/Higher Power!
That was a nice addition!
Thank you! Have a super day!
September 27th, 2007 at 12:01 pm
Hello Sophia
!
The water is always a calm - relaxing place to be whether it is in the mind or in real life. I wish I could go there more often. (The real beach lol) I live inland so I don’t get to go too much.
I know it is easy to forget that we have resources available to us, especially when we are stressed. It is true, when we need it the most, it slips right out of our head. When I am feeling alil down or something, my family or friends would say, “Have you been meditating?” and my first answer is usually, “No!” I need reminders too sometimes.
Glad to hear from you! Have a great day!
October 2nd, 2007 at 4:11 pm
I like your concept of safe place where you won’t be disturbed mentally.
But I would say we can practice not getting disturbed mentally by external factors.
If we intend to remain calm, then I think we can remain so.
Cheers.
October 2nd, 2007 at 9:53 pm
Hello Malathy welcome!
Yes it is true! We can remain calm, and if we are well prepared, we could avoid the external disturbances. With me I find that sometimes the more I tell myself to be calm (especially at the dentist) the more I find myself over reacting. (It’s crazy I know)
Thank you for your thoughts! Hope to see you again! Have a great night!